About a week ago, Joshua “Dardoch” Hartnett was streaming and in a high elo game where he was arguing against his own teammate
To quickly recap, Dardoch asked Thresh to tank baron and Thresh didn’t, which resulted in Dardoch’s death. It first started as the usual squabble, something that’s quite common in competitive settings, and when the argument became personal, the flame kicked off.
People fail to realize that in competitive games, players tend to become more tense, as they dedicate 110% of their potential to win each game. Adding that to the other stressful life factors like school, work and or relationships, both parties’ words carried emotion. Yes, they could have been more civil when it came to the argument, but the pride of LCS players and the top 0.5% appears to be too high.
Relating it back to you, the player, how many times have you dealt with toxic players? How did it start? From personal experience, it usually starts because of a person who fails to prevent their offline stress from spilling into the online world in a form of anger. Otherwise, the quarrel is also ignited by those who can’t swallow their own pride when given criticism. For example, imagine a situation where Top dies multiple times to a gank and asks for help. Jungle tells the top laner to ward and play safe, and the flame immediately begins between the two. Making matters worse for the team, other laners, often being friends of the initiators of the fight, jump in to spread the fire. At that point, you’re not even playing League of Legends, but playing the game of “who can tilt your teammate the fastest.” From personal experience, there’s only one way of ending this toxic conversion.
Throw away your pride and agree with everything they say.
Yes it’s hurtful to lose an argument, regardless of who is right or wrong. But you’re arguing against someone that you’ll never see ever again, not even in future games, let alone real life. If that’s the case, why not just take the soft punches and let the potential flaming slide?
[25:23](Vayne): lol this jungler no ganks so noob gg
Now you have two options; argue or agree. If you argue, he’s only going to pick on the littlest of errors you commit. In return you will do the same, which will have both of you focus on typing to each other instead of the game. This will most likely lead to a red screen.
[25:26](You): sorry i’m trying : (
If you were the flamer, what would you say to that? Even if the verbal harassment continues, the conversation has ended on your part, and there is no argument to influence other players, hence the game itself.
Another common example:
[37:35](Yasuo): lol so salty hehe xd
[37:38](You): yeah i actually am pretty salty that i didn’t do that well this game sorry
Essentially, become a sponge in the conversation and just taking in what toxic players say regardless of the truth. If they continue to insult, you just continue taking the hits until they become tired. Congratulations, you have just won the argument without flaming back.
Does it suck to be the one receiving the flame? Of course. People want their pride to be stroked in a game where you’re not only fighting against 5 opponent players, but also struggling to show you’re the best on the field. If you’re having issues with personal life, don’t take it out on others, and this applies for both online and offline. Go exercise or find a new hobby to take. ‘Cause in the end, being an asshole just sucks for everyone.